People may perceive more hypergamy than they report desiring on this…
Figure 1 Findings → Hypergamy
— A multilingual man is more likely to date a monolingual woman than a multilingual woman is to date a monolingual man.
— A short woman has a better chance of finding love than her equally short twin brother.
Zoom Dating gives short males a better chance than if they meet someone in person. This is because the benefit of height is all but non-existent via Zoom. Thus, some individuals who began dating short males via Zoom may perceive them as catfish when they meet in person. Such a perception would be incorrect as Catfishing is generally considered to be an intentional action. This would be an instance of incidental catfishing because Zoom may make it look like they were hiding their height when in fact they had no ulterior motive.
Figure 2 Findings → InterLinguistic Marriage
Though about a third of respondents reported no linguistic preference, most reported that people would display a homophily preference. That is, multilinguals would want to date multilinguals & monolinguals would want to date monolinguals.
But since migration usually leads to downward occupational mobility & there’s a sex pay gap, most immigrant households are more likely to speak the husband’s language & he’ll have a better chance at a high earning job in the new linguistic location.
Linguistic Preferences by Sex
Linguistic Hypergamy or Homophily
— For now, it looks like men are rejecting hypergamy in favor of homophily. Alas, more subjects are needed.
— Unlike with height/age, there is no socially desirable shorter/younger option with linguistics.
Importantly, linguistic preference may track similarly to educational preferences, such that males may prefer multilingual women less than women prefer multilingual men.
The US is the 5th most linguistically diverse country in the number of languages spoken & ironically most of our population only speaks one language.
InterMinority Prejudice As InterLinguistic
Sidenotes (per usual, assume direct quotes)
Though Filipino nurses only make up 4% of all RNs in the United States, Filipinos account for 26.4% of nurses who have died from COVID (National Nurses United, 2021).
Technically the first cyborg — a rat with an implanted osmotic pump (via Andy Clark).
If ‘will’ is possible then ‘will’ will happen.
Even an attempted suppression of ‘will’ is still an act of ‘will’.
Thus, the emotions (if possible), thoughts, & behaviors of any sentient biological or mechanical being capable of self-determination are a reflection of that being’s will.
(Caveats: coding virus, hacking, alcohol, & other forms of impairment)
Levin et al., 2007 → “Students who dated outside their group more during college showed less ingroup bias and intergroup anxiety at the end of college, but also felt more pressure not to socialize with or date members of other groups.”
Peer influence → Peer influence affects judgments of dating desirability (Graziano et al., 1993). Participants expressed more romantic desire for someone desired by their peers than someone rated negatively by their peers.
USA’s 2 national studies over the next ~2 months
A. Is there surge in cases 2 weeks after #July4th? If not, we can begin Post-Life.
Last year when the CDC said we didn’t need masks it was the most calamitous reversal of scientific public health messaging I’ve ever seen in my life.
So I’m keeping my mask on & distancing a bit longer.
‘We lived, as usual by ignoring. Ignoring isn’t the same as ignorance, you have to work at it.’ (Margaret Atwood in The Handmaid’s Tale)
Prelude to a Kiss: Nonverbal Flirting, Opening Gambits, and Other Communication Dynamics in the Initiation of Romantic Relationships
In films, romance often begins with the leading man offering a clever conversational opening gambit to the leading lady. The woman may not be immediately smitten. In An Affair to Remember (Wald & McCary, 1957), Terry McKay, played by Deborah Kerr, responded to Nickie Ferrante with the sarcastic comeback “Tell me, have you been getting results with a line like that?” Nonetheless, her interest was piqued, and the scene ended with the two going to dinner together, which ultimately escalated into a love affair. As a result of such media scripts, many males believe that the secret to romance is to use a good pickup line. Or, as stated with boundless optimism by Will Smith as Alex Hitchens in Tennant’s (2005) Hitch, almost half a century after Cary Grant, “No matter what, no matter when, no matter who, any man has a chance to sweep any woman off her feet. He just needs the right broom.”
Height Sidenotes (to be continued)
Bielicki & Charzewski, 1983
Lynn and Shurgot (1984)
Teasdale, Owen, & Sorensen, 1991
Allbeck & Bergh, 1992
Kee, Nicaud, Tiret, Evans, & O’Reilly, 1997
Silventoinen, Lahelma, & Rhkonen, 1999
Tuvemo, Jonsson, & Persson, 1999
Pawlowski, Dunbar, & Lipowicz, 2000
Mueller & Mazur, 2001
Stulp et al., 2013
Why I Always Have GamerGirl in High Heels
Tom Jacobs — Pacific Standard (1/2/2013, original publication date):
“A woman walking in high heels is a “supernormal stimulus” — that is, an enhanced version of a stimulus found in nature.
While wearing high-heeled shoes, the women “walked in a fashion more characteristic of female gait.” Specifically, “walkers in high heels took smaller, more frequent steps,” and this reduction in the length of their stride was accompanied by “increased rotation and tilt of the hips.”
In other words, they argue, high heels exaggerate [sex differences in walking & make the wearer appear more feminine]. This stimulates “sexual arousal in males,” as well as increased attentiveness on the part of women who are scoping out potential competitors for male attention.
Persuad & Bruggen — Psychology Today (8 / 28/ 2015): “The biomechanical results are also consistent with the theory that wearing high heels makes women look more attractive by making them more feminine, as the effect of heels was to exaggerate some sex-speciﬁc elements of female gait including:
- greater pelvic rotation
- increased vertical motion at the hip
- shorter strides
- higher number of steps per minute.
The authors of this new study contend that high heels appear to act in a similar way to what is referred to in evolutionary theory as a “super releaser.” For example, some birds prefer large artificial eggs that they cannot even sit on, to their own normal size eggs. Female baboons with a larger than normal swelling of the bottom associated with the sexually receptive period of their cycle, arouse greater sexual interest in males. [High heels have the same effect on human males because they] exaggerate sex-speciﬁc aspects of the female walk, [producing a supernormal stimulus & thus sexual arousal in men].
But there have been numerous fashions that have not been congruent with an evolutionary model. For example, female shoulder pads in the 1980s emphasized a particularly male aspect of the body. Flapper dresses in the 1920s didn’t emphasize the female ﬁgure, the authors of this study point out.
Fashions by their very nature are ephemeral, but trends that endure (such as high heels for females) emphasize sex-speciﬁc aspects of the body. Other styles, such as shoulder pads, will reoccur infrequently over time, as they are poorly matched with our biology.
[In the 1980s]… “As women took charge, they had to become ‘masculine’ in dress and appearance. Broad shoulders = alpha male = power and status. ‘Workwear’ for women still mimics male apparel… but this should also be a transient fashion if more women achieve high status roles.”
Morris et al., 2013 — High Heels
[What are other examples of Temporary Utilitarianism]