🌈Bisexuals & Faking Orgasms with Men vs. Women

Table of Contents

· Garcia et al., 2014
· Bisexual women’s rate of orgasm with men vs. women– Lara Eschler, 2004
· Precarious Masculinity
· Vibrators — Gauvin et al., 2019
· WSW > WSM Orgasms — Malachi Willis et al., 2018
· Breadwinner Wives — Jessica Jordan et al., 2022

Garcia et al., 2014

Bisexual women experience the “greatest intraindividual variation” in orgasm occurrence as some are in relationships with women & some are with men (Garcia et al., 2014, p. 2649).

Bisexual women’s rate of orgasm with men vs. women– Lara Eschler, 2004

Among bisexual women who have had sex with both women & men, the rates of having an orgasm were 64% with women but just 7% with men (Eschler, 2004).

Precarious Masculinity

It’s also the case that straight women dating straight men report discomfort bringing up vibrators & sharing masturbation behavior as they’re concerned that doing so would make them feel like less of a man (Dilan Kılıc et al., 2020; Fahs & Swank, 2013; Gauvin et al., 2019; Herbenick et al., 2010; Marcus, 2011; Reece et al., 2010; Towne, 2019).

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Vibrators — Gauvin et al., 2019

“Lesbian women tended to describe sex toys as ‘fun and subversive’, whereas heterosexual women tended to describe sex toys with shame or as a threat to their male partners (Fahs & Swank, 2013). The hesitancy that some women with male partners experience in incorporating vibrators into their partnered interactions is important, because they may be missing out on a potential to enhance their sexual experiences. Indeed, sex therapists and educators have long proposed the therapeutic utility of vibrators in enhancing sexual pleasure (Heiman et al., 2010; Marcus, 2011).”

WSW > WSM Orgasms — Malachi Willis et al., 2018

Goal of the study

➡️”Identify the aspects that may improve sexual well-being in sexual relationships that do not include men.”

“Women who have had sex with both women and men have reported that sex with women is more “excitingly diversified” (Garnets & Peplau, 2006, p. 73).

Breadwinner Wives — Jessica Jordan et al., 2022

Straight women who earn 60%+ of the household income fake orgasms more often (Jordan, 2022).

Sidenotes

Courtship Mechanics (Heterosexual Dyads)

Men are usually the ones to initiate communication (Oliver-La Rosa, 2019).

This contradiction is problematic given that the reinforcement of gendered norms in one sphere of life threatens to reinforce bases of gender inequality in other domains.

Female Dependent Selection

Women are more invested than men in the reproductive process (by nature) & as parents (by nurture) & thus are more selective (Feingold, 1992).

Bi Women’s Style & Sex of Lover — Sarah Daly et al., 2018

“[Bisexual women dating men chose] appearance markers that could be classed as lesbian orientated in a bid to illuminate their bisexuality, & [bisexual women dating women chose] feminine appearance signifiers in a bid to avoid being identified as a lesbian” (Daly et al., 2018).

Bisexual Visual Identity — Hayfield et al., 2013

“…these bisexual women could not describe a distinct bisexual visual identity. Even when asked directly, participants struggled to talk about bisexual looks, and all of them stated that bisexual women are not recognizable from their appearance. This suggests that a bisexual look cannot be talked about because it does not exist” (Nikki Hayfield et al., 2013, p. 176–177).

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Dr. Jarryd Willis PhD

Dr. Jarryd Willis PhD

I'm passionate about making a tangible difference in the lives of others, & that's something I have the opportunity to do a professor & researcher.