And weighed the utilitarian health resources that may be gained within the bond:
- Social support is important for health outcomes
- This person provides socioemotional support
- But this person is also a 'net cost' sometimes
- Thus, is maintaining bond with person for socioemotional health resources worth the effort?
- Would I be better off without the effort?
Or is this person a rope I'm holding as I'm falling, & though this rope is burning my hands at least I'll land on my feet once [current life event] is over thanks to this person?
Is there another person who could efficiently provide the same interpersonal health resources via social interaction?
How easy/difficult would it be for me to form a bond with another interpersonal interaction partner based on my:
- skin tone,
- race,
- sex,
- sexuality,
- age,
- income,
- thinness,
- body type,
- # of dependents,
- disability(ies),
- religion,
- educational attainment
- sex ratio of current geographic area
- race ratio of current geographic area
etc
If it would be difficult for person X to develop another meaningful social bond (e.g., friendship), then given the importance of socioemotional resources on health outcomes & longevity, it would be in person X's best utilitarian interests to continue putting up with that person. (Note, this isn't being considered in the context of alcoholism, addiction, abuse, & other extremes in which obviously anyone should walk away from that individual).
Finally: The Turing Test (but for your human)
Would Replika or an interactive Ai chatbot provide sufficiently similar socioemotional resources than your friend?
If we code Ai as 0 (reference group) & current human fails to produce a significant difference from Ai, then current human is insufficient.
Recommendation is replace current human with Ai until next social world update or software upgrade.