…n times the INFJ slamming the door has more than enough reason to do so. Remember that this type is very conscientious: so before cutting off contact, they’ve likely already weighed the pros and cons and have probably tolerated numerous transgressions prior to ending the relationship or friendship.
And weighed the utilitarian health resources that may be gained within the bond:
- Social support is important for health outcomes
- This person provides socioemotional support
- But this person is also a 'net cost' sometimes
- Thus, is maintaining bond with person for socioemotional health resources worth the effort?
- Would I be better off without the effort?
Or is this person a rope I'm holding as I'm falling, & though this rope is burning my hands at least I'll land on my feet once [current life event] is over thanks to this person?
Is there another person who could efficiently provide the same interpersonal health resources via social interaction?
How easy/difficult would it be for me to form a bond with another interpersonal interaction partner based on my:
- skin tone,
- body type,
- # of dependents,
- educational attainment
- sex ratio of current geographic area
- race ratio of current geographic area
If it would be difficult for person X to develop another meaningful social bond (e.g., friendship), then given the importance of socioemotional resources on health outcomes & longevity, it would be in person X's best utilitarian interests to continue putting up with that person. (Note, this isn't being considered in the context of alcoholism, addiction, abuse, & other extremes in which obviously anyone should walk away from that individual).
Finally: The Turing Test (but for your human)
Would Replika or an interactive Ai chatbot provide sufficiently similar socioemotional resources than your friend?
If we code Ai as 0 (reference group) & current human fails to produce a significant difference from Ai, then current human is insufficient.
Recommendation is replace current human with Ai until next social world update or software upgrade.